Love is Patient

Happy 9th anniversary to my husband Jason and me!

Nine years ago, we walked down the aisle and said, “For better for worse!”

And I am so glad we did.  I am so glad he asked and I am so glad that God put him in my life.

Last year, I wrote this post, Love is Kind.  It is a great post.  Go ahead, click the link, re-read it.  I will wait…

Now, on that same note, I am going to talk to you today about another aspect of Love.

Love is patient.

True story…

The morning after our wedding, we were staying in a a hotel in downtown Atlanta.  We chose a hotel downtown because we had a really early flight to our honeymoon in St. Lucia.  So, we got up at the butt crack of dawn and made sure we had our suitcases packed.  Well, as I was zipping up my suitcase that I purchased super cheap at a garage sale (in case I haven’t mentioned, I am “thrifty!”), the zipper broke.  I mean, really broke.  Of course, I had packed like a girl and my suitcase was jam packed full and now, we are dealing with a flight that leaves in a few hours, it is like 4:30 a.m. and we have a suitcase with a broken zipper.

Full-On-Panic mode!

We got to the airport just praying that a place would be open to purchase a new suitcase.  Luckily, it was too darn early in the morning and nothing was open.  I say luckily but God only knows how much we would have spent for that suitcase.  We got to the check-in lady, a little panicked, and she did not even flinch.  She asked me if she could cut the zipper and make a new start.  Of course, we said, “YES!” and that is exactly what she did.  With that and a little duct tape, that suitcase lasted our entire honeymoon.

So…from the VERY beginning of our marriage, Love was VERY patient!

Almost five years ago, when I walked through the doors of Weight Watchers, my husband didn’t say, “Don’t waste the money.”  He didn’t say, “You have tried WW so many times before!  Why are going to go AGAIN?”  He didn’t say, “Great…here goes another lost cause in weight loss!”

He did not say any of those things.  In fact, he encouraged me to go.

I guess he was tired of me coming home from work every day and taking a nice long nap on the couch.  I guess he was tired of doing activities alone because I was too overweight to do them with him.  Maybe he was desperate for me to get healthy but being the loving man that he was, kept his opinions to himself.  Whatever the reasons, he supported me 110%.

He still does.

Five years later…yes, F-I-V-E years later, he still is one of my biggest cheerleaders!  He still gets a text EVERY Monday that I go weigh in…immediately with how I did on the scale.  No matter what, he has an encouraging word for me.

He has never once said that maybe I should stop going to Weight Watchers…

FIVE years!

If that isn’t patience, I don’t know what is!

He has also shown patience when I have dragged him to my races.  He has gotten up at 4:30-5:00 am to go and support me in my crazy 13.1 miles I wanted to run.  He was there to take pictures and cheer for me when I finished.  NEVER complaining or asking why I wanted to do such crazy things.

His love has been completely patient with me.

I have not made it to goal.  Five years I have been trying to make it to goal and it hasn’t happened yet.  He is still patient.  He is still encouraging and he is still loving me through it all.

His love, Jason’s love, is patient.  VERY patient.

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.   It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”

This verse is so true in many aspects of our lives.  I, of course, like to relate it to weight loss.  It isn’t as important that your spouse/significant other treat you with these qualities as much as it is important that YOU treat YOURSELF with these qualities!

Are you patient in your own weight loss journey?  Have you given yourself permission to take as long as you need in order to be successful?  You see, this is L-I-F-E.  It is going to go by and time will pass.  What are we in such a big hurry for?  Take your time, enjoy the journey and please, I beg of you, give yourself a break.

Be patient with yourself.  Love yourself.  You deserve it.

Thank you, Jason Swafford for always being patient with me.  Thank you for being my biggest fan and supporter and loving me through fat and thin.

Here’s to nine more years together and then nine more after that!

Love is Patient

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About Jennifer Swafford

Jennifer is an elementary school teacher who is trying to lose 100+ pounds. She has certainly learned how much It Sux To Be Fat and is here to motivate you to live a healthy lifestyle.

  • Kim

    Happy anniversary!!! Such a great verse that you have used – love the patience – so necessary in any relationship!!!

  • Kelley @ A Moyer Adventure

    Congrats! I’m about a week ago from my 4 month anniversary :) That verse is my favorite, and we used it in our wedding ceremony. I like your take on patience…definitely something I need to work on!

  • Shannon Tatlock

    Such a lovely post and so poignant for so many women, me especially. I need to work on being patient with myself. Thanks for this! As always, a wonderful post. :)

    • Jennifer Swafford

      Thank you Shannon!

  • TinaShaw

    How funny! Hubby and I celebrated 9 years October 1st! Congrats and this is a lovely post!

  • Janice

    congrats Jenni !.. next month is my turn to celeb our 5th year anniversary…

  • mattpap

    Hello Jennifer,

    your article shows what patience is action! Indeed, Love is Patient. I am still single, but I hope my future wife will be as patient as you and Jason!

  • Barbara Beckwith

    Sounds like you have a keeper!

    • Jennifer Swafford

      Yep…one in a million!

  • leigh ann dickey

    What a cute pic!

  • TMB79

    Stumbled upon this blog and so inspiring in SO many ways for me. Glad you have such an awesome spouse/partner/friend, so many women in this struggle do not. I will bookmark this blog. Thanks!