Weight Loss is Like Marriage

I have been married to my best friend for 7 years.

Jen and Jason at their wedding

Making the decision to get married was one I took VERY serious. I was taught when I was little that you get married once and you stay married. Thank you mom and dad for that lesson AND example. With that in mind, I had to choose very carefully who I married because I knew once I did, I would be stuck married forever!

Marriage is a choice and I am so thankful I chose the man that I did. You see, it takes a VERY special person to be married to me. I am not an “easy” person to live with, but hey, who is?!? I must say, when God put Jason and I together (it was definitely God that did it!), he knew what he was doing. We just seem to “work.”

Now…on to how in the world weight loss is like marriage.

Weight Loss and Marriage are very similar. See if you agree with me.

First and foremost, they both take a commitment. If you don’t make a commitment to your marriage, it isn’t going to work. If you don’t make a commitment to your weight loss, it isn’t going to work. When I say committed, I mean C-O-M-M-I-T-T-E-D. As in, thick or thin, easy or hard, going get tough, committed! You must be committed to your husband and your weight loss for either to work.

Some people need re-do’s – There is nothing wrong with making mistakes. Some people made a mistake the first time they chose a mate. Some people gave up before they put in the work. Some people chose abusive partners and they had no choice but to get out. Some people just found out, they really didn’t like the other person very much. In weight loss, some people give up before they give the program a chance. Some people choose the wrong program and decide it is not the healthy way to go. Some people just choose to eat poorly and give up. Thank God for second chances.

There will be REALLY good days/weeks/months – In my marriage, I have had lots of really good days. Jason and I can laugh together and have fun together. We do silly things together and genuinely enjoy life with each other. In my weight loss, I have had great days where I track every Weight Watcher points plus I put in my mouth, I exercise and I feel good about my days. There are also really great scale moments where I weigh in and I am elated with what I see. There have been some major highs with my marriage and my weight loss journey.

Jen and Jason Silly

It Isn’t Always Sunshine and Roses – Just like there are good days, there are really bad days also!  In my weight loss journey, there have been ups and downs. There have been days of bad really bad choices and days where I have wanted to quit. Likewise, in my marriage, there have been ups and downs. There have been some pretty nasty arguments. There have been unkind words and there have been days when we BOTH felt like giving up.

You get out of it what you put into it – If you half-ass your marriage, you will probably not last long. If you half-ass your weight loss, you will see half-ass results and will not last long! Put in the most effort possible in both situations and you will see the best results.

They both take hard work – If anyone says being married is easy, I want to talk to them. I don’t care who you are married to, it isn’t always easy. It takes hard work. It takes sacrifice and putting your own wants to the side in order to have a good relationship with your partner.  Weight loss definitely takes hard work.  It is NOT easy.  Again, you have to sacrifice and put your own WANTS aside in order to be successful in your weight loss.  They both take hard work!

In the end, the hard work will be worth it – If you stick with your marriage and weight loss, they will BOTH be worth it in the end. Wait, there is an end? No! Remember these are both LIFETIME commitments!! S-T-U-C-K and totally worth it!

Whether or not you are on your first weight loss journey or your tenth; whether you are on your first and only marriage or your third, this is YOUR life.  They are YOUR choices and YOUR decisions.  This is the only life you get.  Choose well and choose carefully.  Most of all, enjoy whatever journey you are on and have chosen.  So…sit back, buckle up and enjoy the ride.


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  • monica4

    Delurking to say what a GREAT post this is. I never drew a parallel between the two, but you are so right! They both take determination and committment. Thanks sharing your thoughts on this. So helpful.

    • http://www.itsuxtobefat.com Jennifer Swafford

      Thank you!

  • Jennifer Seamans

    Great blog post!!! Thank you for sharing with us!!  


    • http://www.itsuxtobefat.com Jennifer Swafford

      I’m glad you liked it!

  • Angela Bullock

    Wow – what a GREAT blog post and so very true!

    • http://www.itsuxtobefat.com Jennifer Swafford

      Thank you Angela!

  • Matt Long

    Inspirational post on marriage and weight loss. Both are the same in many ways. It is not an overnight stage in life but a lifetime journey. “Quitting” should never be an option or an excuse.

    • http://www.itsuxtobefat.com Jennifer Swafford

      Exactly…no quitting allowed!

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_H4TCYCMBL2RMXWOCW4RLH6Z2HY Kristen

    Great!!!  I have no problem putting in the effort to have a great marriage.  And I do.  But I lack sometimes with commitment to my diet.  Both are for life.  Really like this!  Thanks!!! 

    • http://www.itsuxtobefat.com Jennifer Swafford

      Thank you Kristen!

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Michele-Kruczek-Duchala/100000015772215 Michele Kruczek Duchala

    very well written…thanks for sharing :)

    • http://www.itsuxtobefat.com Jennifer Swafford

      Thank you!

  • sam Hill

    weight loss can be done in many ways as one the most easy way to loose the weight the is to use the pills

  • Serge Osbourne

    This is really interesting way to lose weight!

    • http://www.itsuxtobefat.com Jennifer Swafford

      Thank you!

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  • http://profile.yahoo.com/47F4GWLA3D3LRQWPF75UV3RD7Q skinny girl

    Great comparison. You should also mention how much happiness you can find in both. If you do it right and put enough work into it, it will make you feel more fulfilled and self-confident than anything else in the world. Weight loss and marriage can bring more joy than any money can buy, or any expensive designer dress can cover.


    • http://www.itsuxtobefat.com Jennifer Swafford

      I certainly agree with you!